Every night before we go to sleep, my wife Julie, and I tell each other what are wins were for the day, and every morning when we wake up we tell each other at least one thing that we're grateful for.
This might seem like a small pointless thing, but here's what really happens. At the end of the day, instead of laying in bed thinking about what went wrong that day, or what we wish we would have done differently, or even about what we need to get done tomorrow; we end our day thinking about what was awesome about the day.
Then in the morning instead of waking up and letting our minds go straight to the chaos and business of the day or becoming overwhelmed, we start the day with a mindset of gratitude. We're thinking about what we're grateful for, and in turn we're starting the day off with a positive good feeling.
The really cool thing about this is that since we've been focusing more on what is awesome in our lives and what we're thankful for, the more awesome things happen, and the more there is to be thankful for, and in turn, the less negativity, stress, agony, and sadness there is.
The saying really is true. "What you focus on grows." Have you ever had this happen? You get into a fight or argument with someone over something, and afterwards you let it fester. You sit with the feelings of anger, and it seems to get worse. You keep the story growing in your head, you talk about it with other people, you keep it going. Then at some point, you actually forget why it all started in the first place and all you're left with are these negative, sad, angry feelings, and you've just been letting yourself suffer, even though there might not be a resolution to fix it all. The thing is, in most cases you have control over your thoughts, and what you will let them do to you, and the direction they'll take you in.
In life, sometimes things happen that we can't control or that we don't understand. Sometimes we need to go through a grieving process, sometimes we need to seek medical or therapeutic help to get through things. But many times in life we have the ability to just focus on what we can control, and the ability to not let negative events cause us long term suffering. We have the ability to think about what we can do next to take a step in the right direction.
If you don't already, start thinking, talking, and writing about great things that are happening in your life, the great things that you want to happen in your life, and what you're thankful for. Start focusing only on what you can control, and try to find a positive angle on bad things that have happened that you couldn't control.
The more positive and gratitude you focus on, the more it will grow!
Have an awesome week!!